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"Dear Dr, Labia

Why is it that any girl, ever, who has just met a guy, would think its ok to flirt with said guy, in front of their boyfriend, and when this happens, how should said guy react (either one)? Do these girls know what they are doing to their boyfriends self esteem? Do they know wtf a pissing contest is? On a similar note, why is it, that many girls only seem to notice a guy when he has another girl with him, who is enjoying his company? Is this some kinda lesbian thing? Or is it like having a reference for an application to a job? How can a guy get a girls attention without being the band leader of a ho parade?

-Disturbed"

Dear Disturbed,

There are a few things to consider in this type of situation. The girl may not be actually flirting with you. Some girls come off that way unintentionally. If you are certain she is flirting with you then she is a douche bag, or, rather, douchette. She is either a potential cheater and has no shame in her game or is trying to make her boyfriend jealous. She knows exactly what she is doing to him and that's exactly how she wants him to feel. The actions of women in that regard tend to be more contrived and calculated than men. She knows his self esteem will suffer and, because she lacks self-esteem herself, this brings her delight. Believe it or not, a lot of women do this, unaware that they're also confusing the guys with whom they're flirting. Perhaps they have an open relationship. Perhaps he does that to her and she's acting vindictively. The boyfriend should consider writing her off. Any girl that plays games like that is dangerous. The guy being used, aka the "tool" should ignore her flirtatious advances, respect his fellow male associate and walk away. It can only lead to chaos if he lingers in hopes of scoring with some dude's girlfriend.

Most girls are competitive because they're insecure. They feel as though they have won something (validation) if they score a guy that doesn't need her (due to the plethora of hot chicks surrounding him); they find endearment in feeling as though they're better  than or have one-upped another hot chick. These girls are kinda dangerous, too, as they are mostly stimulated by negative variables. Try the old fashioned ways of courtship. Approach a girl like a normal guy. Talk to her. You essentially don't need to play games or set boobie traps. If she is attracted to you and likes what you have to say, she will reciprocate your advances.  Remember that mystery stimulates the libido.